Kahwin Muda Part2

Alhamdulillah part1 telah banyak mendapat sambutan,so, saya kenalah buat sequel part2(betul ke eja sequel??).

Dari Abdullah r.a katanya:”Rasulullah s.a.w bersabda:”Hai para pemuda! Sesiapa di antara kamu yang telah sanggup memikul tanggungjawab berumahtangga, maka kahwinlah! Kerana perkahwinan itu dapat menundukkan mata dan kemaluan (dari dosa). Siapa yang belum sanggup, hendaklah dia berpuasa kerana puasa itu dapat menundukkan nafsu berahi.”

[Muslim]

-Aku hairan, kenapa dekat Malaysia selalunya,kalau orang tu sangap sangap sangat kita sarankan dia untuk puasa, korang perasan tak?.Walhal hadis di atas clearly shows that nabi sarankan, kalau dah sangap, then kahwin kalau tak mampu then baru puasa.betul tak?

Sentuh sikit bab financial..for those yang rasa tak mampu (sebab masih tengah belajar or sebab baru lagi bekerja dan financially masih tidak stabil ) tapi perlu, then there is a solution.

Kahwin tapi duduk berasingan,remember, this is applicable in the early stage of marriage only, once dah mampu then duduklah bersama, dirilah 'rumah tangga' dalam erti kata sebenar. Dalam masa duduk berasingan tu juga, minda haruslah sentiasa memikirkan cara untuk duduk bersama, maknanya still rasa ada responsibility untuk provide your partner a shelter,faham ke?. At the same time,never ever rely on your parents to help you, like i said you should be the one who provides not the other way around.

How to approach your parents?

Rasanya ini point yang paling susah sekali kita nak deal with, macam mana nak cakap dekat mak bapa kita nak kahwin?. Ada certain case bila kita approach, ibubapa akan cakap yang kamu muda lagi, belajar dulu.Ada case lain, ibubapa tak setuju dengan calon.Ada case lain, ibubapa memang terus terang cakap yang anda tidak bersedia lagi. Dalam keadaan ini, ingatlah jangan sesekali melenting or cakap ibubapa tak faham keperluan kita etc, sebaliknya ingat, who else would be the best of judge yang menentukan anda dah ready ke belum other then your parents. Siapa lagi who has been there all this time selain ibubapa anda, jadi keputusan diaorang is surely the best,kalau diaorang kata anda belum ready lagi then that is true...

Kalau parents rasa anda dah ready then they will tell you that even before you asking.agreed?Benda ini berlaku sendiri kepada abang saya sendiri, my parents went to him and said that they wouldnt mind if he wanted to get married.Abang saya tak tanya pun boleh kahwin ke tak, tapi my parents yang terus cakap yang 'your ready'.Last2 sebabkan abang saya tak ada calon dan dont fell like rushing anything he declined the offer.Damn!, if I were in his shoes, Id be married the next morning! hehehehe.

So macammana nak tunjuk yang kita dah ready ni??

Simple, theoretically but not that simple practically, you just have to show them that you are mature enough...how you ask?kalau nak convince orang kita kena buat benda2 yang extra ordinary.Supaya hopefully diaorang akan nampak yang we have change,tapi ingat change tu bukan untuk nak impresskan mak ayah je tapi perubahan tu haruslah terus menerus even dalam marriage nanti.

- get things work for them, pay the bills for them (using your money if possible, kalau boleh buat ni memang 2 thumbs up bro hehehe)

-pergi pasar tolong beli barang dapur untuk diaorang tanpa diaorang suruh (nampak simple tapi benda2 remeh macam ni lah yang akan pile up to be a big thing)

- the way you communicate with them must change,eg bila dalam argument,be silent and smile back.

Rasul Allah (sal Allahu alaihi wa sallam) said: “Whoever does not argue when he is in the wrong will have a home built for him on the edge of Paradise. Whoever avoids it when he in the right will have a home built for him in the middle of Paradise. And whoever improves his own character, a home will be built for him in the highest part of Paradise.” [Tirmidhi]

-hadis ni berbentuk umum,pergaulan secara umum,maknanya kita kena buat extralah especially when dealing with parents

- like I said, bawa perubahan dalam family,(solat jemaah, tadarus etc) but to change the people you know you have to change what you know.tingkatkan ilmu agama, ibadah dan pengalaman berdakwah, then the people around you will change with you insyaAllah.

-cara berfikir mestilah kritikal. giat aktif dalam aktiviti persatuan/jemaah/kebajikan etc. Show to your parents that your equip with skills to handle big things.

- and manymore.

hahaha kelakar betul!!

Apa yang Perlu Ditekankan kepada Anak2?

kalau nak kahwin, kita kena buat persediaan pra-kahwin.Kena betul2 equip dengan preparation untuk kemudi bahtera korang nanti.Antara yang perlu difikirkan adalah pasal anak2 kita nanti.

Kalau korang perasan,kebanyakan keluarga muslim, di Malaysia khususnya, banyak fokuskan didikan anak,lebih kepada bab amalan.Ajar anak sembahyang, puasa, mengaji dan sebagainya, which is good alhamdullillah but very few yang fokus kepada ilmu tauhid. Walhal sebenarnya akidah dan tauhid ni lah tunjang segala amalan.Sia2 amalan seseorang itu andainya dia buat tu hanya sebab dia rasa orang lain buat so dia pun kena buat.Tanpa akidah yang betul, amalan tidak diterima.Benda ni lah most famili tersilap...kadang2 tu,bila budak tu dah dewasa,walaupun diajar untuk beramal diwaktu kecilnya bila dia besar, dia tinggalkan semua amalan tu sebab tiada rasionalnya semua itu difikirannya.

Infact,kalau tanya korang pun (cuba tanya diri sendiri) tak ramai yang boleh jawab yang dia betul2 yakin yang Allah lah yang layak disembah dan bukan Jesus atau Buddha atau Ayah Pin...

So, my advise is,betulkan akidah sendiri dulu,betulkan sampai ke satu tahap orang tanya soalan apa2 pun bab akidah kita boleh bidas.Belajarlah ilmu tauhid mengenali tuhan sebelum kita fikir untuk start our own family.Sebabnya, kelak kita akan jadi tunjang segala2nya,

""Wahai orang-orang yang beriman, peliharalah dirimu dan ahli keluargamu daripada api neraka, yang bahan bakarnya adalah manusia dan batu berhala. Di atasnya ada malaikat yang amat kasar lagi keras perlakuannya. Mereka tidak mengengkari Allah apabila disuruh dan mereka tentu melaksanakan apa yang diperintahkan” [al-Tahrim 66 : 6]

Macammana nak pelihara family kita, kalau akidah kita pun terhuyung-hayang?.

Tapi insyaallah,jalan akan terbuka bagi mereka yang mecari

p/s

Ah nak kahwin muda kan?Ah apa lagi lets strive for it!!! =)

this is ME REMINDING ME INCASE I FORGOT

Kahwin Muda Part1

Kenapa Nak Kahwin Muda?

Kenapa ada orang nak kahwin muda? kenapa bila sampai usia 20-an usually orang akan pikir pasal kahwin?kenapa fenomena ini menjadi semakin hangat lately tambah2 dikalangan rakan2 saya?kenapa?

ada orang, kahwin atas desakan komuniti.contohnya di Malaysia, kalau perempuan dah cecah usia roughly 28 ke atas dan masih x berkahwin then orang akan cakap,mesti ada something wrong dengan minah ni.jadi dia orang kahwin 'muda' sebab tak nak dilabel sebagai minah di atas.

ada orang kahwin sebab dah memang sangap.dia takut berzina jadi dia berkahwin.rasanya ni lah sebab yang paling ramai orang guna sekarang ni.tidak dinafikan,remaja zaman sekarang ni, menghadapi ujian yang paling susah sekali.dah la dah memang hormon waktu muda ni la paling rancak meningkat ditambahkan lagi dengan suasana persekitaran yang 'amat mendorong' ke arah maksiat.suasana masyarakat zaman sekarang ni, memberi gambaran seolah2 its ok to make maksiat.dengan medianya,dengan internetnya lagi, dengan movie2 yang wajib ada 'adegan' sekurang2nya sekali kalau x mesti x laku, pergaulan bebas lelaki dan perempuan dan pelbagai lagi masalah yang timbul di Malaysia.

kalau budak2 yang study overseas ni lagi la teruk, local chicks kat sini, kalau dah masuk musim panas mula lah tunjuk taringnya.baru tadi saya lalu di kawasan accomodation uni,tengok2 kat taman sebelah budak2 local ni tengah dok main soap wrestling...x perlu elaborate pun korang dah tau how dirty is that.ditambah lagi dengan majalah2 you know what, x cukup dengan itu, surat khabar pun ada yang khas untuk benda ni.how worse can that be?

What to do?

masalah2 macam ni lah yang ibu bapa sepatutnya faham. the world that we are living today is different than the world you guys lived back when you guys were teens.zaman dulu, sekali pun kesedaran islam kurang,dari segi x pakai tudung dan sebagainya,tapi still keadaan terkawal. pergaulan lelaki perempuan masa tu terkawal, apa2 hubungan sekalipun kena minta izin parents dulu(well that is what i understand).nowadays,that is not the case, you can do all sorts of bad sins outside your house and comeback home pretending to be an angel...

jadi bagi saya kalau ada anak muda yang buka topik ini kepada parents, jangan diperlekehkan, sebaliknya bantu anak muda itu selesaikan masalahnya.parents kena faham bahawa it is a good sign if anak2 dorang nak berkahwin,as it is a sign that they want to avoid doing maksiat.

habis bab peranan parents, sekarang peranan remaja.

bagus kalau dalam hati ada perasaan ingin berkahwin untuk mengelak dari buat maksiat.2 thumbs up!.tetapi ingat marriage is just not that.its not like once you get married everything goes to plan and your lust is gone,NO!.not as simple as that.nafsu x kira usia dan x kira status, ia datang bila2 masa samada anda duga atau tidak.Solution?

sabda nabi mafhum,

"pabila seseorang diantara kamu yang ternampak wanita lain dan berkeinginan atasnya, maka segeralah pulang ke pangkuan isterimu,....."

perlu diingatkan juga bahawa kahwin ni bukan hanya sekadar tempat untuk kamu menempias nafsu sahaja, sebaliknya ada Bigger Responsibility once u say "Aku Terima Nikahnya".

Responsibility?

like i mentioned earlier, it is not just about syahawat sebaliknya banyak perkara lain yang perlu kita fikirkan sebelum kita kata kita nak kahwin.

-financially-

ready kah kita dari segi financialnya?.perlu ingat bila mana kita berkahwin peranan dan tanggungjawab kita menjadi semakin luas.we have to support our family,our parents and your partners parents.kalau kita rasa lepas kahwin nanti kita akan minta tolong emak kita atau ayah kita bila kita susah,then my advise is, jangan mimpi la nak kahwin.sebabnya sepatutnya kita yang menjadi provider kepada parents kita dan bukannya dorang yang jadi pembantu kita bila kita susah.so before u plan to get married, think about this first.

-mendidik-

bersediakah kita untuk mendidik family kita nanti?.firman Allah mafhumnya,

"Peliharalah dirimu dan keluarga kamu dari azab neraka"

so ready tak kita ni untuk menjadi penyelamat future family kita?

cuba kita try test dulu dengan family induk kita(mak ayah abg adik akak asal kita).try didik diaorang dulu.try slowly but constantly terapkan nilai2 islam dalam keluarga famili kita dulu. hidupkan solat berjemaah, buat tadarus al-quran sekali-sekala ke, tak pun bacakan kepada dorang riyadussalihin, x pun fadhail amal tak pun apa2 buku yang mendorong dorang untuk beramal.bare in mind that it is not easy,without a doubt, terutamanya for those yang family background dia kurang islamik.tetapi ingat ini lah medan ujian kita untuk menguji sekuat mana tahap kemampuan mendidik kita. kalau still rasa susah then imagine kalau kita ada family sendiri nanti, bukan mudah....

to be continued

p/s

id love to continue my writing tapi takut kalau panjang sangat readers jadi bosan or even worst x fahampun point yang saya cuba sampaikan.hehehe..

based on personel summary

finally, any enquiries do ask, any comments do write.

jazakallah

Volcanic Eruption

Baru sahaja selesai mendengar khutbah jumaat sebentar tadi.

Khatib mengingatkan aku satu benda yang aku terlepas pandang selama ini. Volcanic eruption yang berlaku di Iceland yang menyebabkan lalu lintas udara terpaksa di'cancel'kan atas alasan natural disaster.Natural disaster yang menyebabkan beribu2 orang terkandas, syarikat penerbangan kerugian jumlah wang yang banyak.Malahan pasukan Barcelona, yang gah dengan aksi lincah bermain bola mereka tewas 3-1 kepada Inter Milan gara2 kepenatan(agaknya lah hehe) sebab terpaksa menaiki bas dari Barcelona,Spain ke Milan,Itali.

Semuanya berpunca dari letusan gunung berapi.

Tetapi sedarkah kita? siapakah yang menyebabkan berlakunya letusan, adakah ianya benar2 kejadian semula jadi? lupakah kita kepada tuhan yang menyebabkan semua ini berlaku?

Seluruh european continent yang kononnya antara negara2 termaju dunia, yang mempunyai begitu banyak peralatan canggih dan moden, terkena tempias fenomena ini. Mereka mampu meramal menggunakan teknologi terbaru, tetapi tidak ada seorang pun yang mampu menghentikannya...

Ingatlah kepada kuasa pencipta, muhasabahlah dirimu kerana sesungguhnya Allah tidak akan menurunkan bala' keatas sesuatu kaum melainkan untuk mengingatkan kita 'who's the Boss'.

think about it...

masih lagi ramai yang tidak sedar.masih lagi ramai yang pergi Malaysian Night yang tidak nafi lagi boleh digelar Majlis Maksiat.Sehinggakan bacaan doa pembuka majlis,menjadi seolah2 satu ritual dan bukan lagi pengharapan kepada tuhan...why?!...why?!!..

ini baru api dunia...macam mana pula akhirat???

Iceland prepares for second, more devastating volcanic eruption

About 500 people were evacuated when Eyjafjallajokull volcano erupted

passangers stranded

written on friday,edited on sunday

Showing Off: Is It an "In Thing" with Allah?

Showing Off: Is It an "In Thing" with Allah?

Ours is a society that thrives on showing off: showing off how much money a person makes, what clothes a person wears, even showing off who one dates! Take sports stars, actors, actresses, and musicians, most live a life of luxury and live that life very publicly.

Many of these people will develop a complex in which they feel they have earned these luxuries on their own, and through their own hands they achieved their fortune. As a result, these individuals no longer see that God blessed them with their current lives and hence they are not thankful to God.

As if bragging and flaunting aren't bad enough, what comes after this is jealousy and envy. Enough becomes not enough and we begin to envy those with more than ourselves. We may create jealousy in others. Even worse, we begin to belittle others we perceive as beneath us. For example, if we purchase a new pair of Jordan's or a Coach purse, we may tell others to "check this out; I got it for $120. I'm the first person to get them. They're limited edition."

If Allah has blessed us with money, then it's understandable we purchased such an item. But we see this quite a bit in middle school students - they begin to point out - going with the shoe example - shoes and say things like "look at those shoes, they are from Pay less" or "those Nike (or Converse, etc.) are out of style; no player wears them," and they mock the student wearing those shoes.

When we make people feel bad for what they are wearing or we make them feel embarrassed, then this is a clear indication that we are in need of an ego check. Think about the many examples throughout history of people who would show off and boast and how Allah humbled them.

Compiled From:
"The War within Our Hearts: Struggles of the Muslim Youth" - Haseeb Quadri and Sa'ad Quadri, p. 76.

salincetak dari emel BALAI NEWCASTLE-madihah

a videoclip from Nouman Ali Khan to go with it,

This is the 1st part,check out the second part here

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=BBfWUDJUz-Q&feature=related

Time

Adus,baru lepas dengar satu ceramah dari Nouman Ali Khan.Sangat suka dengar ceramah dia, lets just say he knows how to approach the audience...Beliau berbicara tentang sifat2 orang beriman seperti yang tertulis dalam Al-Quran.Dalam talk tersebut beliau ada juga menyentuh tentang masa,membuatkanku berfikir, betapa salahnya aku selama ini.Aku bercakap tentang muwasafat tarbiyah yang antara isinya menyentuh tentang pengurusan masa, and yet Ive spent hours and hours of my daily life,especially recently, playing PES 2010 =(

No wonder sejak kebelakangan ni hatiku terasa kosong, tiada pengisian nurani, amal pun makin kurang,jauhnya aku dari Mu ya Allah...

Its been months since I last truly 'listened' to any talk to be honest...

entryku pun makin hari makin kurang pengisian...

what have I done!

Its a shame,come to think of it, my blogs name is when will i wake up and yet im still sleeping...snooring...*sigh*

“Wahai Tuhan kami! Janganlah Engkau hitung kami sebagai bersalah, jika kami lupa atau kami tersilap. Wahai Tuhan kami ! Janganlah Engkau bebankan kepada kami bebanan yang berat sebagaimana yang telah Engkau bebankan kepada orang-orang yang terdahulu daripada kami. Wahai Tuhan kami! janganlah Engkau pikulkan kepada kami apa yang kami tidak terdaya memikulnya. dan maafkanlah kesalahan kami, serta ampunkanlah dosa kami, dan berilah rahmat kepada kami. Engkaulah Penolong kami; oleh itu, tolonglah kami untuk mencapai kemenangan terhadap mereka yang kufur terhadap-Mu” - penghujung Baqarah

Forgive me Lord, for only You we seek refuge from the sins of our actions...

Sempurnakah iman kita?

Ottomonresurrecion Part 1 (Istanbul)

Salam,
yes finally an entry!!! after so long alhamdulillah god gave me wisdom to write yet again..

sobona ee, eden baru blik dr turkey ni ah....banyak bukan main lg ee bendo yg eden blaja..x terkiro.

one of the reason why i wanted to go to turkey was to observe with my own eyes how is my muslim brothers overthere after so much that Mustafa Kamal Ataturk Laknatullah has done (Ataturk means father of turkey).Besides wanting to know their cultures and seeing istanbul itself which many claims is one of the most beautiful city in the world.The night before my flight i went with my cousin in London to see his friends, one of them even said that after seeing istanbul she felt that other places that she had gone was ordinary, istanbul was the best, it has a mix of eastern and western buildings etc.This excited me more.....

This was my journey.....(with few tips for those who are interested in going to turkey)

Saya mendarat di Lapangan Terbang Sabiha Gokcen, terus naik bas Havas(nama company) ke Taksim Square, fyi airport tu located in asian region istanbul,istanbul ada european region juga ok...it took around an hour to reach there.cost 13 TL. Then kena amek bus ke Aksaray, apartment which we were staying in.55 TL/night 2 double bed tp kitaorang sumbat je 10 org haha owner x kesah.Hulya Apartment nama dia.Owner's name is Abdul Qadir, turkish who couldnt speak english.luckily we had a translator, sister Jasmine.
Disinilah tempat pertama kitaorang experince turkish muslim's hospitality starting with the owner...eventhough he couldnt speak english,still he treated us chay(tea), biscuit etc, he even allowed us to take anything in the kitchen...

The next day, we went to see Hagia Sophia and Blue Mosque.

Hagia Sophia
-was once a church during roman times, then converted into mosque by Sultan Mehmet Fatih,then converted into museum during Kamal regime,nauzubillah
-when Fatih first conquered Constantinople, he change the name into Islambul, then Kamal change it into current Istanbul.He aloud the community to practice whatever religion they wanted, he only asked for one thing...Hagia Sophia.So he converted it into a mosque.
-it was built during the romans,tujuannya adalah utk menandingi Masjidil Aqsa.
-when it was converted, all of the walls of the church which was filled with painting of jesus,mary gabriel etc was covered with a layer of plaster.Sadly nowadays the plasters has fade away, revealing the paintings.

Blue Mosque
-Actual name, Sultanahmet Mosque.
-also know as Blue Mosque due to the colour of the Kubah.(eventhough i didnt see it as blue,more like grey)
-dibina utk menandingi Hagia Sophia...bila pikir balik, sedih la pulak,masjid dibina untuk menandingi bangunan lain dan bukan atas purpose as a praying place....hmm

we also went to grand bazaar etc, which i dont want to elaborate as it has no special meaning to me.Oh yeah one more thing, we went Hagia Sophia n others via tram(guna token(jeton) 1.50 TL , u can go anywhere on the tram with it.single journey only okey hehe).

Now comes the big part,next day we met with muslim community there when we went to pray subuh at the mosque near our apartment.Camii Iskenderpasha was the name of the mosque. Camii-Mosque pasha-general.
they were bunch of sufi's,naqshabandi followers.they treated us for breakfast in a nearby restaurant.we got along eventhough we had difficulties communicating. Eventhough we had language barriers,still they treated us as if the had known us for a long time.subhanallah, this was where we experince turkish MUSLIMS hospitality.baik giler!!!.bayangkan, dengan baru kenalnya, ada language barrier lg, tp still dorang layan first class.gosh i just cant explain the feeling man...i dont see this happening in malaysia,sadly....All because we were travellers, musafirin.

On the lsat day of our stay in istanbul, they invited us to one of their house.they treated us breakfast,again!!.this time was even touching, because we had an even clearer taste of their culture.the owner said,they believe strongly in hadis nabi,
"treat ur guests with what ever that u have in your house"

What i learned from them,
-i manage to get a glipse at sufism for the first time
-they really appreciate guest.
-kat sini la baru saya sedar betapa pentingnya tahu banyak bahasa
-ada 2 syarat utk semua ni terjadi
1-niat kena betul dari awal.kalau niat hanya sekadar utk lihat bangunan shj then that is what u will get.
2-you have to be a practicing muslim.dekatkan diri dengan masjid...

next stop cappadocia

p/s u will see what u want to see-zacharias,kalau tengok2 bangunan is what u r looking for then that is what u will get, but if ur there to see how muslims are in a secular world,then u will get that plus tengok2 bangunan.so ingat, niat tu penting...just a reminder for those who are interested in going there...